Unless you are confident and secure in youself and position, you cannot have it in you to come forth and forgive someone. The magnanimity of this hurt leads us to judge if we can forgive the perpetrator or not.
It east you from inside. Do not be bound by morals that teach you what to do for they were written in a certain context and yours could be a totally different one.
Weak can never forgive, forgiveness is the attribute of the strong! You feel lighter as if a burden has been raised off you.
However, if one looks closely enough, one can see that by letting our lives be dominated by hatred, the need to render even more hurt to the perpetrator, we build a negative image of ourselves, an inability to ever trust again, and more importantly, we automatically let the perpetrator have more control over us.
To free ourselves from the damage, no matter how incredible it might have been, and to salvage our own lives, means that we are ready to give ourselves a chance to heal, to put the dark matters of the past behind us. However, sometimes, we let ourselves believe that we have been devastated when we ourselves had placed our trust and our expectations in the wrong people.
Breaking the ice: If you hold on to past conflicts, you lose a friend or someone who was once close to you. Initiating conversation, hearing his views on what went wrong in the past and if he is willing to make up for it, putting forth your views will go ahead to make things better.
Unburden yourself from the pains of your past hurt, and you have achieved a newfound freedom, the strength to carry on and keep going, no matter what.